we have been married for 14 years have 3 kids together.a few months ago my husband had pencreititus and was told not to drink alcohol, he is! also he had been going to a methadone clinic and while he was sick was able to get off it but now i think he is using again cause i see all the signs his mom is sick and needs care at home so he is there alot hes not working and just has a ton of time on his hands to do things he shouldn’t be i sometimes miss him when hes taking care of his mom but when he is here he is just so annoying i think he is hiding over there so i dont see what he is up to i love him but i really dont like him at all lately i dont get excited to see him anymore its sad cause i think its over but i dont want to make any rash decisions, please help SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!!
ok now i have proof he is drinking i took a sip of his “juice” and it was mikes hard berry! ha said it tasted funny bcuz it had a laxitive in it i thought to my self yeah right you dont need help making the shit come out! anyway i had day surgery today for a female problem and he did stay with me along with our oldest children but before i went in he was nodding offf so i can also say he is using again and last night he stayed over his moms no phone call to say he was so i still think he is hiding out there i dont mind that he takes care of her but there have been times she has taken two days worth of meds at once so how good of an eye can he be keeping?? i know he’s not cheating cause the kids go with him and i call and he is there but it feels like it cause the drinking and using consumes him in the way another woman would. he told me today before i want in for surgery that i am his everything and it felt wierd i know i do love him but its still hard to like him at all!!

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A lot of you helped me a couple of days ago & I would like to thank you very much for being compassionate. Once again long story as short as I can make it. My husband was a heroin addict, he was clean for 9 yrs, he relapsed, agreed to go to the methadone clinic, relapsed again, lied more, went back to methadone, lied some more, relapsed again. It’s a huge struggle for him & he wishes he could take back the day that he wanted just ONE shot after 9 yrs thinking he could handle it. He can’t. A very painful death is what sparked the relapse to begin with.

I found out he was using again, I confronted him, he lied of course, then saw me crying & came clean with everything, gave me the name & phone numbers of his new dealer, agreed to go back to methadone & he has been going for the past 2 mornings. But now he feels like he has to tell me where he is every second of the day & he has his tail between his legs & I HATE seeing him like that. He gives me a rundown of every place he’ll stop at & how long it will take. He also asks me if I want to go with him to make sure he is where he says he’s going. I tell him no because I don’t want him to feel that he has NO freedom. Should I be going with him? If he says he’s going to Home Depot & the bank do I really need to accompany him? Should I? He offers it but I don’t want that lifestyle. I want to trust him.

Should I drop my day & go with him to hold him accountable or should I trust him & let him feel like a man & not a little boy? He is very ashamed of his addiction & I don’t want him to feel like this. I’m just sad. I also don’t want to find out 2 weeks from now that he relapsed again because I gave him too much rope. GOD how does anybody deal with this? My heart actually breaks for him. His struggle is so much worse than what it’s doing to me. I’m just dealing with lying & trust issues. He’s dealing with night sweats, twitching legs, aches, pains, not being able to sleep, vomiting, shaking. This is so above what I know how to deal with.

Am I an enabler if I don’t go everywhere with him? I’m confused. Any advice at all will help me right now. Thanks again.

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