Comments on: Can anyone help me? I need some advice about a loved one who is addicted to narcotics?

By: trubluaries

trubluaries — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 19:15:04 +0000

As someone who works around this all the time I would ask to speak with the Dr.. See this is exactly my point, if he just came out of rehab why would the Dr. give a known addict more medications. Speak to the Dr directly and tell him/her how things are and question whether you want to stay in this marriage

By: Happy_Wheatland

Happy_Wheatland — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 22:42:40 +0000

If i were you, I don’t think i could take it living with someone like that….But if you love him, you can’t give up on him, He is sick and needs some help…..I will pray for both of you

By: ?steadybeau?

?steadybeau? — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 00:53:22 +0000

You cannot save a man from himself. He is not a child and he will not get help unless he chooses to. As for YOU, all you can do is try to encourage him to get off the stuff. You may have to leave him if his drug use is a problem in your relationship. If he gets angry with you for trying to help him, you may end up getting hurt by him, either physically or otherwise. The navy teaches that the last thing you throw in to save a drowning man is yourself. You seem to be a wonderful wife, but some things like drugs will ruin a marriage. Maybe after he’s lost you, he will see the light and he will CHOOSE you over his drug addiction. SAVE YOURSELF.

By: Knock Knock

Knock Knock — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 12:03:58 +0000

wow that is a hard question to answer. I my expierance I have seen it go two ways. The person either hits rock bottom and wants to change or they go on about there life. If it were me I would probably go talk to his doctor and advise him of what has been occuring. He may not be able to give you any information but you can give him all kinds. The second thing is that you need to take care of you…..I would go and speak with someone like a psychologist and hear what they have to say about taking care of you or a support group like Alanon. I don’t believe that his doctor would have given him the methadone if he had known about his abuse problem. Just make sure to take care of you…I hope the best for you.

By: pitgirl

pitgirl — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 17:14:16 +0000

he has to want the help dont enable him perhaps he is still in denial coming from an addict my first two trips to rehab was just to give my body a rest and to escape from all the caios i caused or to save my marriage he has to want it maybe he should talk to an addiction counslor

By: wildhair

wildhair — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 08:50:15 +0000

Percocet is a big problem along with other prescription drugs. They are addictive and people will get multiple scripts from different doctors. When I used to work at a pharmacy, we had a guy that used to get the drugs from us and another pharmacy. If his doctor does not know that he is addicted, then there are two things you can do. Speak to his doctor and inform the doctor of this. Also ensure that his insurance company is aware of this as well. Don’t enable him and his habit by hiding this from either of those two. You may need an intervention with his closest friends.

If you notify his MD, his MD has an obligation to make sure he doesn’t feed this addiction your husband has or he can lose his license.

By: tony123

tony123 — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 21:08:50 +0000

VERY usual unfortunately. I can say that I didn’t clean up until I was ready to.
I lost most of my early life to drugs, and had a fiancee die in my arms because of them. I personally hit bottom when I was arrested for beating up 4 police in a small town in Oklahoma. It was not a good time in that jail. I went into rehab, and 10 weeks later got out clean. of the 54 people who were in rehab when I was, I was the only one who stayed clean. You can not help the fact that you Love an addict, but you should not help the one you Love BE an addict.

By: latwannasidney

latwannasidney — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:51:52 +0000

I think he should get off the drug and maybe he should stay in rehab just in case he go at it again. This time he have to remember to tell his doctor that situation again about his problem with any drugs.

By: KP

KP — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 01:48:11 +0000

Get to an AL-ANON meeting — FAST.
you can find their meetings list on the web.

It’s a sister to AA – it’s for loved ones of any substance abuse. It’s free.
They can help you.

If your community does not have AL-ANON, go to an AA meeting.
They’ll give you tons of information, and tons of support.

Don’t let your husband take his gun (narcotics) and shoot holes in your boat (your life) or you both will drown!!

Jump OUT of his way. Quit trying to save him.
He doesn’t want it.
Save YOURSELF.

By: QT Cathy

QT Cathy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:57:14 +0000

You need to contact Nar-Anon. It is a support group for friends and family of addicts. You can’t change your husband’s behavior or force himto change, but you can help yourself by joing a support group and learning from those that have been there before you.