Can anyone help me? I need some advice about a loved one who is addicted to narcotics?

professorknowitall
#1. March 26th, 2009, at 4:43 AM.

In-ter-vention!

Kristi A
#2. March 27th, 2009, at 5:36 AM.

I think phisical abuse, drugs and alcohol are all deal breakers in a marriage. And yes it is very typical of drug users to go to rehab and get out doing that very exact same all over again. They have to have a wake up call, like lose something before they wake up. Now im not saying everyone but alot of them drug users. I would just leave until he gets better. May be hard but you can do it.

JJJJJJJJim
#3. March 29th, 2009, at 11:05 PM.

Methadone is used in cases where a person is addicted to narcotics – but it can still be abused. It doesn’t sound as if your husband wants to admit that he has a problem. I’d encourage you to check out support groups for family members of addicts. I’d encourage you to educate yourself and consider whether your behavior is “enabling” (behavior that allows the addict to continue using and protects the addict from natural consequences of their behavior). Good luck to you. It sounds like you’re in for a difficult time of it. If your husband is unwilling to talk openly with you and/or unwilling to admit that he needs help managing an addiction, I’d encourage you to consider what is best for you at this point.

head_trip
#4. March 30th, 2009, at 4:45 AM.

UHHHHHHH, I NEED THIS DOCTOR, WHATS HIS NAME & LOCAATIOIN?

QT Cathy
#5. April 1st, 2009, at 7:57 PM.

You need to contact Nar-Anon. It is a support group for friends and family of addicts. You can’t change your husband’s behavior or force himto change, but you can help yourself by joing a support group and learning from those that have been there before you.

KP
#6. April 3rd, 2009, at 1:48 AM.

Get to an AL-ANON meeting — FAST.
you can find their meetings list on the web.

It’s a sister to AA – it’s for loved ones of any substance abuse. It’s free.
They can help you.

If your community does not have AL-ANON, go to an AA meeting.
They’ll give you tons of information, and tons of support.

Don’t let your husband take his gun (narcotics) and shoot holes in your boat (your life) or you both will drown!!

Jump OUT of his way. Quit trying to save him.
He doesn’t want it.
Save YOURSELF.

latwannasidney
#7. April 6th, 2009, at 3:51 AM.

I think he should get off the drug and maybe he should stay in rehab just in case he go at it again. This time he have to remember to tell his doctor that situation again about his problem with any drugs.

tony123
#8. April 7th, 2009, at 9:08 PM.

VERY usual unfortunately. I can say that I didn’t clean up until I was ready to.
I lost most of my early life to drugs, and had a fiancee die in my arms because of them. I personally hit bottom when I was arrested for beating up 4 police in a small town in Oklahoma. It was not a good time in that jail. I went into rehab, and 10 weeks later got out clean. of the 54 people who were in rehab when I was, I was the only one who stayed clean. You can not help the fact that you Love an addict, but you should not help the one you Love BE an addict.

wildhair
#9. April 11th, 2009, at 8:50 AM.

Percocet is a big problem along with other prescription drugs. They are addictive and people will get multiple scripts from different doctors. When I used to work at a pharmacy, we had a guy that used to get the drugs from us and another pharmacy. If his doctor does not know that he is addicted, then there are two things you can do. Speak to his doctor and inform the doctor of this. Also ensure that his insurance company is aware of this as well. Don’t enable him and his habit by hiding this from either of those two. You may need an intervention with his closest friends.

If you notify his MD, his MD has an obligation to make sure he doesn’t feed this addiction your husband has or he can lose his license.

pitgirl
#10. April 13th, 2009, at 5:14 PM.

he has to want the help dont enable him perhaps he is still in denial coming from an addict my first two trips to rehab was just to give my body a rest and to escape from all the caios i caused or to save my marriage he has to want it maybe he should talk to an addiction counslor

Knock Knock
#11. April 15th, 2009, at 12:03 PM.

wow that is a hard question to answer. I my expierance I have seen it go two ways. The person either hits rock bottom and wants to change or they go on about there life. If it were me I would probably go talk to his doctor and advise him of what has been occuring. He may not be able to give you any information but you can give him all kinds. The second thing is that you need to take care of you…..I would go and speak with someone like a psychologist and hear what they have to say about taking care of you or a support group like Alanon. I don’t believe that his doctor would have given him the methadone if he had known about his abuse problem. Just make sure to take care of you…I hope the best for you.

?steadybeau?
#12. April 17th, 2009, at 12:53 AM.

You cannot save a man from himself. He is not a child and he will not get help unless he chooses to. As for YOU, all you can do is try to encourage him to get off the stuff. You may have to leave him if his drug use is a problem in your relationship. If he gets angry with you for trying to help him, you may end up getting hurt by him, either physically or otherwise. The navy teaches that the last thing you throw in to save a drowning man is yourself. You seem to be a wonderful wife, but some things like drugs will ruin a marriage. Maybe after he’s lost you, he will see the light and he will CHOOSE you over his drug addiction. SAVE YOURSELF.

Happy_Wheatland
#13. April 19th, 2009, at 10:42 PM.

If i were you, I don’t think i could take it living with someone like that….But if you love him, you can’t give up on him, He is sick and needs some help…..I will pray for both of you

trubluaries
#14. April 20th, 2009, at 7:15 PM.

As someone who works around this all the time I would ask to speak with the Dr.. See this is exactly my point, if he just came out of rehab why would the Dr. give a known addict more medications. Speak to the Dr directly and tell him/her how things are and question whether you want to stay in this marriage